I was the corporate 60-hour a week, no vacation, always on call, financial analyst in NYC. Before that, I worked in law in a major bank. I understand that life.
I was also the busy mom with a hundred things happening and a partner who traveled all the time. So, while I wasn’t a single-parent, I was doing the hands-on alone. I understand that life too.
I remember when the kids were little, we had moved out to the country by then—which had its own isolation issues—but I remember wanting to find a place of my own, just a room to meditate in for 10 minutes a day. Back then I thought my spiritual practices had to be something set outside of my ordinary activities. Something special and separate.
I bought a small shed and put it out away from the house. My plan was to put the kids down for bed, turn on baby monitors and go sit in my own space. This was before cameras in the home and stuff like that. My husband was never home from work before 10pm and I just wanted 10 minutes that’s all.
Great idea, right? It didn’t last. I felt guilty being out there when the kids were alone in the house. As if I owed it to them to always be with them. So, I pivoted, and it became my private escape when my husband was home on weekends. I could go out there and find myself again. Even that didn’t last. The mice moved in over the winter and I moved out.
That’s when I knew I had to make it work in my life. Not on the edges, not separate. I had to find ways to integrate spirituality into my every day. And so, I started on the path of the sacred ordinary. I embraced where I was and who I was and started with that.
I remember when my son would come running in the house and tell me the trees were talking to him, of course the trees were talking to him. He’s the kid that would want money and find quarters on the floor where they weren’t 10 minutes ago. He was still in touch with the law of attraction. And I guided him in that.
As parents we do this. The difference is, I believed it too! I wasn’t telling him a story to keep childhood fantasies alive. I knew it was true. It is quantum level understanding of energy and the interconnectedness of all things. Of course, we can communicate with other beings and you can attract into your life that which you desire the strongest. In fact, you will.
It became more than just the regular things though, when the kids were 5, 7, and 9 years old, I brought them to the shaman for their first soul retrievals. Out of the blue, our middle son had started stuttering – I did everything we were supposed to with modern medical doctors and therapist. No one found a cause or could make it go away. Within six weeks of the soul retrieval, the stuttering disappeared. Completely gone. The shaman told me it would be gone within 3 months. It didn’t even take that long. Our daughter wasn’t speaking up in her friend group – boy did that change. She’s 24-years-old now and very outspoken!
And, you know what, I finally found a way to meditate. When the kids were a little older, in grade school, before the weekly spelling test (which was big for them), I would sit us down in a circle holding hands around a lit candle. The hand holding was nice as a family, but it also made sure no one stuck their fingers in the flame. Their instruction was to stare at the flame for as long as they could. I closed my eyes. That’s it. I knew they wouldn’t be able to close their eyes and get all still, so I gave them an active meditation. It wasn’t 10 minutes, but that’s ok, we made it 2 minutes, sometimes 5 minutes. I finally found a way to meditate.
I was doing this in all areas of my life. Before stepping into a corporate dinner with my husband, I would call in my spirit guides to be with me. I would send energy ahead of a fundraiser I was planning to bring the highest good and abundance for all parties. I’m an ordinary person walking a spiritual path.
When my kids were grown, I didn't go back to corporate life. I became a clinical herbalist, shamanic practitioner, reiki master teacher and a small business owner opening an herbal apothecary and spiritual gift shop in our town.
Today I travel internationally teaching living the shamanic way every day. I make it accessible and practical and I guide people to find their own way. I teach essence, not methods or techniques. You don’t have to follow these 17 steps to get it right. When you understand it at the essential level, you can adapt it and still keep it dynamic and powerful, mystical and meaningful. If I can do it in my life, I know you can do it in your life.