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Love Imposter Syndrome

1/6/2023

 
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Imposter Syndrome in love is a real thing. It's an unsettling feeling that even though you've experienced love from others, you don't believe that it's genuine, or that it will last. This type of imposter syndrome can be especially difficult when it comes to relationships because it can create a tremendous amount of self-doubt and insecurity that can prevent us from allowing ourselves to open up and fully invest in the relationship. At least, that is what I've discovered about myself.
Oftentimes imposter syndrome around love is rooted in childhood. We may have grown up feeling like we weren't good enough or that our love was never good enough for our parents, causing us to fear being rejected and abandoned by those close to us. My parents did their best, but they didn't feel loved by their parents. In my case, it is generational! I've come to know that as a result of my childhood, imposter syndrome leads me to question my skills and abilities when it comes to giving and receiving love. It makes me feel inadequate or undeserving of true and lasting love. It is part of what caused the breakdown of my most recent relationship. I never fully believed my partner could or would love me. And, surprise, that is what ended up happening. 

It's important to recognize imposter syndrome in order to work through the underlying issues preventing us from experiencing authentic relationships. For example, imposter syndrome often leads people to shy away from intimate moments such as physical touch or deep conversations about vulnerability because they fear being exposed as someone unable to express true love for another person. 

In order to overcome imposter syndrome around love, it is essential to practice self-compassion and patience with yourself as you learn how to break free from the limiting beliefs of your past. Start by establishing boundaries with yourself and loved ones - setting clear expectations helps create trust within yourself so you can take risks without feeling like an imposter.

Additionally, focus on creating strong support systems so you have people who understand your struggles with imposter syndrome around love but also serve as cheerleaders who will help keep you accountable when things get tough.

One of the things I used to do when I was getting triggered by love imposter syndrome is run. I would leave the relationship before my partner had a chance to leave me. I now have a boundary with myself that says - stay and see. You can handle this better if you stay. If you run, you will create the very thing you are afraid of. Also, I will be more vulnerable with my next partner and explain this old pattern so they can help support me when I'm struggling with this limiting belief.

Finally, find ways to express yourself creatively - gathering new tools such as journaling, art-making, music, or writing could help facilitate healing while allowing you access into the depths of your thoughts without fear of judgment or ridicule. Take a hike on a wooded path or swim in the ocean if that helps clear your head and heart so you can lovingly begin to access the depths of your limiting beliefs.

By proactively working through imposter syndrome-related issues surrounding intimate relationships, we are able to open ourselves up for true connection with another person enabling a deeper level of understanding between both parties in the long run - something that wouldn't be possible if imposter syndrome was left unaddressed.

At the end of the day, imposter syndrome in love is something that can be worked through. The journey may not be easy, but it's definitely worth it to find true and genuine connection with someone else. With enough effort and self-love, you'll eventually learn to give and receive love without having imposter syndrome interfere.

And... remember it's important to seek help from a qualified professional if you are experiencing  imposter syndrome symptoms that you can't resolve on your own. We all need help now and then. 
Julie Odell
1/7/2023 07:00:24 pm

Teri
This was a beautiful read. Yes, I have a lot of signs of what your story tells, I have been practicing on taking care of myself more I have not been partying or drinking or anything like that, but trying to practice more exercising and self-love getting up early getting to bed early taken care of myself, we just buried my second dad this past week. He was very close to my family, so it was very hard and trying but I still have Set my boundaries with that person that I had to stay away from, I told him that I will never be in that toxic environment again so here’s the kudos to moving forward. I did go out in the woods and put some corn starch out there and say some prayers but I will be working on my circle . 🙏❤️😘🫶


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